There are exceptions, of course, and you will find a feminine top or a dominant bottom, but toxic masculinity still plays a huge part in the gay community and influences the stereotypes we have about sexual positions. Tops are viewed as macho, generally masculine, and dominant, whereas bottoms are considered to be more feminine and submissive when it comes to sex. Men are more likely to say they are versatile than admit they are a bottom due to the stereotypes associated with the positions. Yet, it can still be a hard question for men to answer because of the stigma that has come with being a bottom. It is a necessary question to ask because two of the same position, outside of versatile men, are likely to be disappointed when they expect the other to give or receive. A top is someone giving, a bottom receives, and a versatile person is ok with either. The most common response will be top, bottom, or versatile.
Being a part of the gay community, it is very common to be asked the following question about your sexual position,